How to know if my child is a victim of bullying?

Many children experience bullying, which is a common problem in schools, but children usually do not tell anyone if they are bullied, which makes it difficult for parents to know what is happening with their child .

The child (male or female) may experience violence, physical, psychological and verbal abuse by his schoolmates. However, the repetition of this phenomenon is aimed at humiliating or harassing the child , and it becomes an abnormal phenomenon that calls for social-educational and psychological interference at times.

There are several scientific terms for this phenomenon of taunting: bullying, bullying, or bullying (from a lion), or bullying (from a tiger), and the scientific name for this phenomenon in English is Bullying .

The bully may physically assault and abuse her victim, such as: pushing her, physically blocking, beating, or even sexually assaulting her.

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Causes of bullying

There are several factors and reasons why a bully chooses his victim, and they are:

  • exterior.
  • weak personality.
  • Shy and secluded figure.
  • Debt.
  • Racism.
  • Handicap.
  • In most cases, the bully is larger or physically larger than the victim, but not in all cases.

Some children may also be bullied because of the violent environment in which they grow up, such as children whose family members are screaming and cursing all the time , or children who watch TV programs promoting violence, or subject people who are humiliated and ridiculed because of their appearance or a lack of their talent or skills.

Signs of being bullied in school

Students are unlikely to tell their teachers about being bullied, but their behavior may change and show significant signs at school, such as:

  • The child may become aggressive and irrational.
  • Squabbling may begin.
  • He refuses to talk about what is happening with him.
  • Unexplained bruises, cuts, or scratches appear on his body, especially after a break.
  • Its personal items may be subject to sabotage or loss.
  • Academic achievement may decrease.
  • He stays alone all the time, away from gatherings and groups of friends.
  • It shows a change in his behavior and his sharing with the teacher in the classroom.
  • It shows signs of fear and insecurity.
  • He is a target of mockery and harassment repeatedly.

Signs of being bullied at home

Parents may notice changes in their child’s behavior at home. Some signs that may appear at home include a child who is bullied:

  • It is difficult to wake him up in the morning to go to school.
  • Not wanting to go to school.
  • His sleep regime, or the nature of his eating, may change.
  • The way he goes to school may change, or he may be afraid to go to school.
  • He experiences anxiety, crying spells, anger, or mood swings frequently.
  • There are bruises, cuts, or scratches on his body without explanation.
  • He suffers from stomach pain, back, neck and shoulder, or unexplained pain.
  • Rotation ( dizziness ).
  • Difficulty breathing.
  • Diarrhea .
  • nausea.
  • Night urination (bed urine).
  • His personal belongings or clothing were destroyed or lost.
  • He is asking for extra money to buy food.
  • He comes home hungry.
  • He does not wish to speak or disclose what he occupies.
  • He tries to harm or distort himself.

The child victim may experience classic symptoms of depression , such as: sadness, loss of appetite, lack of focus, insomnia, low self-esteem, fatigue and fatigue, sometimes irritable and nervous, disturbing dreams and nightmares, loss of self-confidence, frequent talk of suicide , or attempted suicide, Sometimes he may succeed.

How do I act if my child tells me that he is being bullied?

If the child initiates and tells one of his parents that he is being bullied, the parents must listen to him with interest and without prejudging him. Parents should listen to their child’s entire conversation before trying to solve the problem, and his question is as follows: What happened? How did you feel then?

Parents should not assume that their child did something wrong that caused him to be bullied, and should not be asked: What have you done to be bullied? This question does not help at all.

Parents should also try to find out the bully who targeted their child, without saying something bad about him, or give verbal abuse in front of their child. The child does not want to see his family bully someone, or solve the problem in their own way, but wants to speak at this stage, and disclose what Upset him, and based on the whole story, the parents must decide the next step, and what to do to solve the problem.

Also, parents should not go to school and confront the bully in the yard, as this will cause the child to fold in on himself, and he will not tell his parents anything after them at all .

The bully may use advanced technology to control, humiliate, insult, and exploit his victim, such as resorting to the so-called Cyberbullying by directing insults, accusations, online harassment or hidden photography (without the victim’s knowledge) and nuisance via mobile phones.

Here it should be noted that cyberbullying is increasing, so parents and guardians should pay attention to this hidden phenomenon.